
Recently, we have witnessed
instances of the horrific treatment of women around the world.
In the time of Prophet
Muhammad, similar cruel practices were enacted by his society and he opposed
all such forms of oppressing women.
Indeed, at the sight of a
tragedy of any human being, Prophet Muhammad’s heart would be saddened and his
eyes would flow with tears.
One of the spectacular examples
of this is in the following story that concerns the practice of shunning
daughters.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon
him) was born in a society where women had been subjected to much violence,
which often took the form of female infanticide. Daughters were considered a
burden; and getting rid of them was sometimes considered a necessity, which
they did in a most violent manner: by burying them alive!
It is reported that Umar, the
second caliph, prior to his accepting Islam buried one of his daughters alive.
Later whilst was in the fold of Islam, he was often seen wiping tears while
reminiscing about this dark chapter in his life! As he recalled:
“I was digging a grave to bury
her and she was wiping the dust off my cheeks!”
Equality
Prophet Muhammad was very kind
and polite toward women. At a time when they were treated very badly, the
Prophet gave women honor and dignity equal to men.
Umar reported:
“We did not have much regard
for women in Makkah; however, they were better treated in Madinah. The Prophet
established women’s right through his sayings and commands, which strengthened
their position and status”. (Mishkat ul Masabih)
Since men were always around
the Prophet, women were prevented from listening to him or asking about matters
of concern to them. Therefore, they requested him to appoint one day a week
when they could have free access to him, a proposal to which he agreed. He took
special care of them and always treated them with kindness so that they would
feel free to ask him about anything.
Once when the Prophet was
traveling, an Abyssinian slave named Anjsha was leading the camels that some of
the Prophet’s wives were riding. While Anjsha was singing, the camels began to
move quickly. The Prophet said to him:
“Anjsha, take care that the glass
(the women) does not break.” (Al Bukhari & Muslim)
Asma daughter of ‘Umais, one of
those who had immigrated to Abyssinia in the early period of Islam, returned
with the others to Madinah during the Khaybar campaign. One day she came to see
Hafsah when Umar was present. Seeing her, Umar inquired about her and Hafsah
told him the details. Umar said:
“O, that Abyssinian”.
Asma’ replied:
“Yes, the same.”
Umar said that they (his group)
had emigrated before them and therefore had more right to God’s Messenger.
Asma’ became angry and exclaimed:
“Not so! You people lived with
God’s Messenger, who fed the hungry, while we were away from home, living among
strangers (the Abyssinians) who often mistreated us. We were in constant fear
of our lives”.
During this conversation, the
Prophet entered the house. Asma’ told him:
“O God’s Messenger, Umar has
said this”.
Prophet Muhammad asked:
“What did you reply?”
She told the whole story, after
which the Prophet said:
“Umar has no more right over me
than you have. Umar and his Companions emigrated only once, whereas you people
emigrated twice”.
When the news of this incident
spread in Madinah, the Abyssinian emigrants came running to Asma’ and listened
to the Prophet’s words again and again. According to her account, nothing in
the world was more pleasing to them than the Prophet’s words. (Al-Bukhari and
Muslim)
Kindness and Respect for Women
Once, many of the Prophet’s
female relatives were sitting around him and talking loudly to him. When Umar
entered the house, they all left the room and the Prophet laughed. Umar said:
“O God’s Messenger may God keep
you smiling. Why did you laugh?”
The Prophet replied that he was
amazed that these women, upon hearing Umar’s voice, had all hidden themselves.
Umar, addressing them said:
“You fear me but do not fear
God’s Messenger”.
They all replied:
“You are hot-tempered in
comparison with God’s Messenger”. The Prophet agreed with them. (Muslim)
One day, the Prophet was
sleeping in Aisha’s house with his face covered. It was the day of Eid, and so
the young girls were singing. Abu Bakr entered the house and told them to stop.
The Prophet said:
Let them sing. It is the day of
Eid for them. (Al-Bukhari)
As result of the Prophet’s good
temperament and kindness, women used to ask him questions. Although the
companions were often surprised at their boldness, he never showed any dislike
or intolerance for their questions. In fact, Abu Sa’id, Aisha, Anas, Ibn Abbas,
Jabir, and many other companions related that Prophet Muhammad said:
Whoever has two or three
daughters or sisters and treats them well will go to Paradise. (Abu Dawud)
These stories are reflective of
the Prophet’s mercy and kindness towards women. But he went even farther. He
tried to liberate women from all kinds of injustice, maltreatment and
oppression.
The Prophet can genuinely be
viewed as a liberator of women. He gave women such rights and privileges that
even Western women did not enjoy until centuries later, like the right to own
and use property independently of her husband and family. She also had a voice
in the public sphere and politics, as the example of Prophet’s giving audience
to women shows.
Indeed, Muslims after the
Prophet followed his example. We see Umar’s example when he was castigated by a
woman for having two pieces of clothes from the distribution state money
whereas everyone else received only one. Umar responded that his son gave him
his share.
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